Hey, lovely wives!  I have a question for you!  Did you ever think your husband should just know what you need?

I held this erroneous belief for a long time.  I used to think, “well, he’s with me all the time.  Why can’t he just see what I need? Does he even know me?  Is he even paying attention?”

I’d feel unloved and unknown when he couldn’t figure out what I needed.  Perhaps I watched too many romantic films, but, girlfriends, this is not real life!  My inability to tell my husband what I needed and assumptions I made about him, only hurt our marriage. 

I apologized to him long ago for my errant thinking.  Women, our husbands are not mind readers nor can they possibly understand the complexities of our emotions, thoughts and feelings.  If we need something from them we’re going to need to be brave, risk vulnerability, and then have an honest conversation.

I know, I know, it feels scary, but I promise you, vulnerability is the gateway to connection!!

I’m amazed by the relief that washes over my husband's face, when I articulate what I need. He willingly wants to help me.  Our guys are good.  They want to serve us. 

My hubby of 33 years said, “honey, I’m so glad you’re talking about this with women because we cannot read your minds.”  Poor guy, has a little PTSD about it.  Honestly, being able to articulate with your husband what you need is life-giving in a marriage.  It’s not about demands or selfishness, it’s about honest intimacy.  

 I love talking about marriage and I’m so excited to be partnering with 60 other women for the 2021 Wives of Integrity Online Conference in May. We’ve been working behind the scenes and my presentation is called, True Communication Requires Vulnerability. 

 We’re going to dig deep and talk about what vulnerability is, how to be vulnerable with God and how this spills over into vulnerability with our spouse. Brene’ Brown says, “Vulnerability sounds like truth and feels like courage.”

The Wives of Integrity Online Conference is a FREE event.  There were over 33K+ attendees from around the world last year.  Simply click on the button below and get yourself registered!!

What do you have to lose?