“This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.”- Genesis 2:24

What kind of mother-in-law are you? Maybe your kids aren’t married yet, but have you thought about what kind of mother-in-law you want to be? Just saying the phrase brings up a negative response, right?

Monster In-Law

Do you remember the 2005 movie, Monster In-Law with Jane Fonda and Jennifer Lopez? The story went like this. Charlotte (Jennifer Lopez) is smitten when she meets Dr. Kevin Fields (Michael Vartan). So when Kevin pops the question after they start dating, Charlotte happily accepts. But she soon realizes that Kevin's mom, Viola (Jane Fonda), is not quite thrilled to have a new family member. Viola, a newscaster, has just lost her job and is feeling rather attached to Kevin, so she regards Charlotte as her new competition -- and will apparently do anything to make her son call off the wedding.

We  simultaneously cringed and laughed as the antics unfolded of the mother-in-law's overbearing nature and constant criticism of her son’s choice. She tried to control everything. She resorted to manipulation. She was the epitome of what not to do as a mother-in-law. The movie was over the top but it resonated because so many couples experience this heartache from a scorned mother who doesn’t understand her boundaries.

 It doesn’t have to be this way. 

How about you? Have you thought about the kind of mother-in-law you want to be? Are you taking steps to do this role well, to be a blessing to your children, instead of causing conflict and relational stress?

There’s a powerful verse of scripture that sets the stage and provides clear boundaries for a mother in-law. “This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.”- Genesis 2:24 This verse tells us a man will leave his mother and father and become united with his wife.There must be separation.Their bond is the base for all leadership in their family. They call the shots; you do not. They are separate from their parents as God intended them to be.